“When you can’t change the direction of the wind – adjust your sails,” is a quote from inspirational writer, H. Jackson Brown, Jr. As a professional coach, I’ve used this quote with my clients many times. I often go on to explain it further, saying, “If a sailor knows a storm is coming from a certain direction, he or she will adjust the sails and let the wind blow them in the opposite direction. Remaining on the same course might mean being caught up in a disaster that could sink the boat.”
Continuing on a course where disaster is looming and just waiting to take you down might make it impossible for you to ever get out of the “storm,” and head on to safe passage. Logically, we may realize that the only things we can change are those which we have control over, however, that isn’t always easy to accept. This great quote simply reminds you that when you need to find a way to get on with your life, you need to adjust your sails and look to the future rather than spending more time on what’s not working.
Change is Hard
It may be difficult to change a course that you’ve been on for a long time. That route is familiar and even though filled with turmoil, it can be strangely comfortable. Taking an unknown course of action may be scary, but necessary if you’re to get on with your life and take action to make changes that will bring you success and happiness.
What Can You Do?
My advice as a professional coach for those who truly want a new course is to first rid yourself of fear for the uncharted course. You have to stop worrying about the unknown. Practice replacing negative thoughts with positive ones and soon it will become automatic.
The practice of mentally preparing yourself by gathering knowledge about your new course of action, visualizing yourself in your new role in the future can calm the mind and lessen the fear. You may still run into situations you’re unprepared for – and you may make some wrong decisions on the path – but, perseverance will get you through the dark and stormy times and guide you to safety.
Next, remove the negative elements from your life. It may be difficult, because some of the negative elements might be friends, family and others, but it’s a necessary action that must happen before you can get through the present storm in your life. Set goals, take action on them, and stay the course. You’ll soon realize your dreams and desires for the future.
If you want to make a change but don’t have the tools to do it alone, consider working with a professional coach. I offer life coaching for adults and teens to help you adjust your sails. Fill out my contact form to learn more about my services as a professional coach.
