Do opposites really attract?

160After training hundreds of classes on personality and behavioral styles I have found that most couple and spouse whom take the class together are almost always opposites. I have been told that I have even saved some relatiooppositesnships. In one class there was a husband, wife and child. All three of them were three different styles!

I believe that we are attracted to people that have qualities we admire. We are drawn to others who seem to have strengths and attributes that are effortless for them and yet agonizing for us. That difference does create an initial attraction and it intrigues us because we want to associate with people that represent want we want. It also explains why in the beginning of a relationship we find their quirks cute….and then…after a few months we no longeMTMr find them quite as cute. Those are the same traits that now drive us nuts!

126In the MIND the matters workshop you will learn the characteristics of all four behavioral styles. The Dominator and Nourisher are exact opposite styles and the Investigator and Motivator are also opposites. That means that the strength of one is the challenge of the other.

Consider you might be very forthright and a straight shooter. The opposite of your style is someone who would find that awfully rude. So they will try very hard to be diplomatic. The straight shooter views this overly considerate person as wishy-washy. Similarly, a creative and imaginative person likes to consider lots of ideas and they are stimulated by brainstorming. The opposite style prefers to think within the box and follow logic.

161It becomes obvious that our unique attributes can help others and make them crazy at the same time. The key to success is to appreciate differences and work to leverage the strengths of each style. Sometimes however that is much easier said than done!

About the author

Robin Lavitch, MA, CPC, is the founder of Surpass Your Goals, a coaching practice for entrepreneurs, executives, tweens, school administrators, and more. Her capacity to connect with audiences, elicit thought-provoking ideas and clarify personal ambitions prepares people to apply that knowledge instantaneously to accelerate their own results in leadership, sales, and time management.

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